I don't think I did, MilShooter. I was purposely careful not to criticize your words at all, but rather, comment on a link that you provided. <Snipped>
In short, my previous post didn't question or present a challenge to your views at all. Fair 'nuff?
That said, this post that I'm responding to now does have a troubling undercurrent to it, or maybe not, I'm open to being mistaken. But when I see statements like this....
MilShooter said:
I'm sure you can understand that daily, we see evidence that young black men attack, shoot, and kill each other for honor. Or some such BS. They all want to be bad-asses or tough guys or whatever is the current term. For the most part, they FIT the "stereotype" or profile. I'm not saying that Trayvor was a criminal or gang-banger or anything of the sort. I'm just saying that he was not as he is being portrayed in the media as a tiny child with a choirboy disposition.
....I get a bit uncomfortable. Not because I don't understand how you come to such conclusions, or maybe "perceptions" is a better way to put it, but because I catch myself all the time thinking similar thoughts, and it's something in me which I consider a character flaw - something I fight the urge to just accept as "the way it is." I fight it because of what I alluded to before, being a life-long biker who has been judged by outward appearances that have nothing to do with who I am as a person at all, and for the most part, those judgments are nowhere near accurate.
Blues, I think you DID misunderstand my later statement (as quoted above). I was referring ONLY to those criminals who actually committed the crimes against their brothers. (And I use the term "brothers" not to signify a race, but rather a term to describe their fellow man.) In the quoted part of my statement above, I made no conclusions about anyone except known criminals who had already committed crimes of violence. And I didn't ever mention their appearance. I was trying to be very specific in my characterization of criminals, and NOT Trayvon. But I also wanted to demonstrate, by use of an example that all of us are familiar with, that Treyvor, a healthy, athletic, physically imposing MAN, COULD have been seen in that light. Again, I am absolutely NOT suggesting that he was anything other than a good kid who got involved in a complete disaster. (As an aside, written words are a difficult way to communicate our feelings or intentions. If you had been watching me and listening to me when I made an oral statement like the one above, you would have known from the inflection of my voice and the expression on my face, that I was NOT suggesting that Treyvor was a bad person.)
I work in armored transport. I'm atypical in that field, in that I work both in the field on a truck and in the vault sorting, bundling, counting and routing. I work the graveyard shift, and there's not enough stops overnight to justify a full-time route, so they put me and my partner on double-duty to make our positions full-time. My partner happens to be a young black guy, and while at times I do find him to be somewhat knee-jerk in his approach to race issues, the fact is that he doesn't fit any of the stereotypes you allude to above, nor any other as-yet unmentioned stereotypes of young black men. When I say he's a "young" guy, he's 26, married with two kids, one 3 and the other 8 months. We don't socialize outside of work, but coincidentally, he lives in the same sub-division that we do, so I see him fairly often in his "civies." He's got some tats, wears his jeans low, though not, thankfully, with his ass and boxers actually hanging out, he's got 26" wheels on his "whip" of a modern Chevy Impala, and the times I've driven by his house when he's having a BBQ or whatever, all of his friends show one or more outward signs of being "from da hood" too.
When he and his family drive by our house when we're having visitors, they're as likely to see every stereotypical example of Southern rednecks that one can think of. Harleys parked in a row at the curb, pickups with rifle racks in the window, wife-beater shirts that show off fully sleeved tats, leather jackets with large patches of Harley wings, or even a Rebel flag or two, old fat guys with beards braided, and mullets, oh God, the mullets!
If either of us gave into our urge to draw conclusions about the other based only on what we see, as opposed to what we share with each other as human beings, we couldn't work together, period.
I agree 100%. Let me tell you some about MY frame of reference. I've already noted somewhere on this forum that my best friend is black, a retired Philadelphia cop. His Lexus is "blinged-out" a bit with 20" spinners, but his Corvette is immaculate, winning trophies in most shows we attend together. But he dresses like a Preppie from the '80's. He always looks like he came from a church meeting. When I made the statement about "Looks like a duck and quacks like a duck...", it was my black friend who first made that observation to me. He laughs when anyone mentions that "profiling" is illegal and never used. It is used all of the time in police work. Evidently, profiling is quite accurate and widely used, although officially forbidden. As my friend puts it, he is much more careful when he approaches a car driven by "gang-banger" (in appearance only) than a car driven by a 70 year-old white woman. Call it what you will, (racial profiling) but the facts are largely indisputable. He really is at more risk in the former traffic stop than the latter. As he tried to describe it to me, it seemed prejudicial, but on the other hand, very pragmatic. Statistics show that he is more likely to be shot by a real "gang-banger" than an old white woman.
My brother, on the other hand, is absolutely covered with tattoos. He has the most beautiful full-back tattoo you've ever seen (in my opinion), and his arms are covered by ink-art. He wears a beard and shaves his head. He stands about 6' 3" tall and is built like a weight-lifter. He is in his early 40's and looks like trouble. But he is the kindest, gentlest man I know. He has rescued more stray cats and kittens than any other person I've run across. He donates his time to cleaning the environment. But when he rumbles-up on his fully-dressed Electraglide, people scurry away from him. So both my brother and my best friend are subject to prejudgement. And all of the prejudgement is wrong.
So I understand exactly what you're saying and why you're saying it.
This case is rife with potential to not only highlight, but grossly exaggerate, all of the most despicable failings of human interaction. If I gave into those baser instincts, I wouldn't have taken the time to find out that my partner is working these crazy hours so that he can be an active presence in his children's lives while his wife works during the day. I wouldn't have taken the time to find out that he's got an Associates Degree in psychology, and he'll likely spend another decade going to school part-time to accomplish his goal of attaining a Phd in his field. And if he hadn't made an effort to ignore the outward appearances he sees of the people visiting my home, he would dismiss them all as untrustworthy, even dangerous to him and his family, when the fact is, one of my biker friends is a doctor, one is a chiropractor, and one is literally a rocket scientist working at NASA.
All I'm saying is that stereotyping people isn't helpful to finding the true and accurate facts in this case. I believe in general it's harmful, in fact, and that's why I criticized the link. However, as cmhbob points out, your closing paragraph couldn't be more salient or true or profound. I believe we can arrive at the same conclusion without the stereotyping, and without giving the media a pass for such blatant and grotesque uses of the practice either.
Blues
All I can offer to you is this: I was not trying to cast Trayvor as anything, prejudged or not. My intention was to point-out that the media portrayal (and the flame-fanning incitement to violence by the typical group of Jessee Jackson, Louis Farrakahn, Al Sharpton, and so on) was inaccurate and biased. Factually, the truth is that Trayvor is NOT a little, powerless 12 year-old kid who was pursued and shot in cold blood by a crazed lunatic "white person". Sometimes, while watching the news coverage of the rallies hosted by the rabble rousers mentioned above, I wonder if we're talking about the same event. Media bias is rampant in this case and I was simply trying to dispel the image that was being presented.
I had read all of the posts on this very message thread, and many, many people had already convicted Martin because he chased and shot a little boy who bought skittles and wore a hoodie. Their conclusions were based on outright lies, foisted on all of us by the press and the above-mentioned gang of racial dividers. In fact, all of the above mentioned rabble rousers would be out of a job if they didn't invent controversy and shout "racist" all the time. Evidently, their JOB is to create more racial tension and animosity and it sickens me.
I, like you, make a special effort to see past the façade that people exhibit to the world. I try very hard to not pre-judge people based on their appearance. Rather, I try to see people for who they are. And my misunderstood statement as quoted above regarding established criminals who shoot each other was a simple observation - it is what we see on television daily. Unfortunately, what we see on television is seldom the "real" truth. The link I provided was to provide a counterpoint to the established thinking, which I saw evident in this thread; that Treyvor was not the little boy he was portrayed as.
In the Army, I was offered my first glimpse (close-up) of black people. In fact, it was my first exposure to MANY different types of people. In the induction center, everyone was wearing their civvies, but after our buzz-cuts and uniforms, we all became the same. That was an enlightenment to my somewhat sheltered upbringing. I was very surprised later to discover that my best buddy in the Army, a really squared-away soldier, was a hippie in the "real world". So my world changed. As has yours.
I honestly think we're cut from the same cloth. If I failed in my attempt to communicate my feelings and intentions accurately, it is solely my fault. I am sorry for my failure and I will endeavor to convey my thoughts more accurately in the future.
While I now know to take people for who they are rather than how they look, I cannot turn a blind eye to the violence I see every day on my local news (from Philadelphia) wherein there are multiple shootings every day within the black community. I may never understand their motivation for killing each other, but I should not be cast as a bigot or prejudgemental for making a factual observation about the people who are committing these crimes.
And by the way, thanks for your insightful post. I understand your frustration with the prejudice of appearance even though I haven't been a life long victim of it. It is not often that we hear both sides of a story and it is to our detriment. In recent history, too many people have been tried in the press and convicted because of the biased nature of reporting. I try always to take a breath, and ask, "What's the OTHER side of this story?" because surely, there is something missing in our rush to judgement. I don't always win the battle against myself, but I make an effort.
Best regards,
MilShooter