Thanks to most of you for your comments on my post, I do expect, welcome, and appreciate constructive criticism. I believe everyone has something to offer. However, the personal attacks on my character and fathering abilities/skills that were posted by some are completely unnecessary and extremely disrespectful, that's why I deleted my post, not because of some "Confession of Road Rage", I realize that some of you can't read very well and others only hear what they think they understand.
First to admit I am not a literary scholar or an expert in proper grammar, So maybe writing it out doesnt flow so well, but I am just a guy who wrote about my experience on an early morning Sunday breakfast drive as I was just tooling along minding my own with my daughter,
I talk to my daughter every day about defensive driving, watching out for the other guy, in- attentive / incompetent drivers talking on cellphones,,,, I do not want her or me for that matter to die as a statistic at the hands of some idiot who got their license from a box of cracker jack, I have nothing against making a quick call if necessary, but to engage in extended conversation while operating a motorized vehicle is unacceptable, Lots of kids are dying these days because they have no driving skills, Their parents have no skills to pass on to them, they thinks its ok to talk / text while driving a 3000 lb battering ram, I am really tired of the white knuckle drive, I commute 100 miles back and forth to work , I've been doing this for years and it has only gotten worse, I am a safe conscientious and courteous driver, I don’t speed, I do not tailgate, I give myself and the other drivers plenty of space to react if something goes wrong, I've got nearly 1 million miles under my belt and never caused a wreck although I have been hit two times by other in-attentive / incompetent drivers, one was talking on a cell phone. Do we ban cell phones ,,, No, But the blatant disregard that these people show for the traffic laws and safety of other drivers needs some serious attention, They need to start handing out $1000.00 fines for all moving violations, once the word gets out maybe it will get better,
So what used to be a enjoyable early morning Sunday drive is now no different than a weekday commute, how many times I have been cut off by inattentive / incompetent drivers talking on the phone? Then they see me on their bumper and flip me off cause they think I'm the one tailgating... I just let it go,
If anyone acted out of road rage it was the lady driver, I had the green light and I was already within the intersection, She was talking on her cell phone, when she ran the red light, She wasn’t attentive to the road, She rolled right on red when she should have stopped, She cut me off, She should have let me go by and got in behind me, I was at 30-35 mph’s as she pulled out in front of me, I had to swerve to avoid rear ending her, She never saw me there in the first place so she probably thinks that I was the one being aggressive,,, Dumbass,,,,So I flipped her the bird, and told her to put the phone somewhere dark, I just said it inside my car, I didnt scream at her out the window, My passenger window was up, Could she have read my lips?…Sure, So at that point I moved on,,, She pursued me and continued her pursuit for about 2 more miles after I removed myself from the original incident then speeding passed me re-engaged and cut me off again,,, I flipped her another finger and moved on, Me and my daughter commented back and forth about what just happened, how (My daughter)>"She followed us from way back there" and "That lady scared me when she cut in front of us" and she had the nerve to call it in and report me as a “reckless driver”, I didn’t show my weapon and did not indicate that I had a weapon and had no intention of. Was I pissed that she cut me off, sure, but I was not "enraged", Did I lay on the horn,,, Yep, So Is that so bad? Does that relinquish my right to stand up and be human?, I don’t believe so
Ok so to the title of my post,,, “DISSARMED”,,,,
The officer was dispatched because the lady who cut me off while talking on her cellphone called me in as “reckless driver” He followed me from a distance for about a mile or so? He then closed in and turned the blue lights on, This is about +-5 miles down the road on 42E from the initial incident, So I pull over, Roll down the window, both hands on the wheel, As he approaches my car, he asks me for license and registration, First Thing I inform him “ I am in possession of a concealed handgun, and I will have to reach for my wallet to get my license, it’s on the same side as my weapon”, “How would you like me to proceed”,,, He asks if I have my permit on me I say “Yes Sir” he then ask me to step out of the car and to the rear of my vehicle so we can talk, I asked why he pulled me, he didn’t like that, It was out of his sequence, He ask for my Id, I hand him my DL and CCW, When I tried to tell my side of the story to the cop, He seemed uninterested, The cop,,, (Police Officer)... He told me to put my hands on the vehicle, and then proceeded to disarm me… I complied with his requests / commands, I was not aggressive at all, I was calm, I was truthful and I spoke to him with respect as an officer, Yes Sir,,, Yes Sir I Understand, Yes Sir... So I think it would have been appropriate / tactful for him to inform me that "Mr.Cxxxx, for my safety and yours I would like to remove your firearm and secure it while I conduct my interview with you”,,,would you be Ok with that?” “Yes sir, I would be fine with that” and I would have complied, But to feel his hand up under my shirt(s) and just grabbing at my weapon was a little / lot uneasy for me, I don’t care if he was a cop,,,,you guys talk about this all the time when unfamiliar hands handle another persons weapon bad things could happen, Anyway, If I would have resisted he would have never gotten my weapon away from me,,, poor / insufficient training? Maybe so,,, I wear an IWB retention holster, so with the forward tilt and the retention and him being behind me he could not remove the gun from the holster , and the holster does not come off my belt so easy either,, he became frustrated, he had to really work at it to get it off, took the better part of say 15 seconds (life / death) to actually remove the Holstered Handgun from my belt, He was like a teenage boy trying to undo his first bra, He was extremely un-familiar / fumbling heavily,,, and then he could not remove the handgun from it’s holster to actually “Secure It”, So I guess my holster performed exactly as it should have though, it retained my weapon,,, He didn't frisk me,,,, He didn’t cuff me, He didn’t ask me if I had or check me for any other additional weapons,,, EPIC FAIL??? So while this was happening I asked him, “Why are you dissarming me?” I’ve never been disarmed before” and his reply was “I make the rules” Of course he didn't need my permission... But could he have been more tactful? Certainly, there was no perceived threat,,, he was just asserting his perceived authority over me, He even overly stated his concern that my permit might not be valid and could in fact have been forged and he didn’t / wouldn’t know that until he checked me out,,,, I’m thinking,,,forged ??? Probably never seen one before, I mean its still in the original laminate from the JoCo Sherriffs office,
There was no threat, He knew that I was being truthful by my demeanor, He only went directly for the One Weapon “I Told Him I Had” . I could have easily had a second weapon on me as I sometimes and often do, If I were desperate criminal or this was some kind of training exercise He could have been easily shot, Then After he “SECURED” my weapon he lectured me on the woes and dangers that police officers face when conducting traffic stops, drugs , alcohol,,,yawn,,, I said “Yes Sir I Understand” then he said something about “I can tell you haven’t been drinking”… and informed me that he would run my docs and if everything was in order he would return my weapon to me and I would be “FREE TO GO”,,, Ya’ think,
So feeling the need to disarm me and the possibility of a “Forged permit”, He took the word of desperate criminal (not known at the time) as having only one weapon on my right hip” ??? He didn't frisk me,,,, He didn’t cuff me, He didn’t ask me if I had or check me for any other additional weapons,,, EPIC FAIL???
I'll just chalk that up to his youth and inexperience.
I understand the dangers that police officers face, And I highly respect them for their sometimes thankless job, But There was no threat, He knew that, and he never even addressed by my name…very un-professional
I am 48 years old, I have never ever been arrested, I've held my CT carry permit for 25 years and still have it because I do go back home every now and again, and NC since 2008, I am not a criminal and have no intention of listing "shooting a police officer as my first offense”, I am a single dad, I've had my custody of my daughter since she was 2 years old, she is 14 now, she is ADHD an algebra wiz kid and an Honor student quite an accomplishment for her and I have done one hell of a good job with raising her, She depends on me to make it home safely,,, everyday,
I don't smoke , I don't drink, and I am not a Hothead
"How dare you people judge me"!!!!!!!!!
I could have went into finer detail for those of you who pick apart at the periods, and a tighter sequence of events as they occurred for the legal issues, I didn’t intend on giving you a 4 hour deposition,,,
Again, Thanks for your input , and your time,,, Greatly Appreciated,,, DC
