I am leaning toward a 9mm because that would result in only one type of ammo in the house, since mine is also a 9mm. Just trying to keep it simple and somewhat inexpensive....though that is becoming an issue lately too.
A revolver is much simpler to use, and if that is the direction she goes, so be it. But, she has a fairly strong interest in guns in general, and does enjoy shooting. So, any concern about practicing with a semi- is not really a problem...finding time could be.
So, my 2 main concerns at this point are proper fit for her and minimal recoil. If it kicks too hard she may loose interest in practicing, and that will not help. So, the heavier gun sounds like the best option, providing it fits her comfortably.
While we live in Delaware, she works and travels a lot in Maryland. It is nearly impossible to legally carry a handgun in Maryland, so the chances of her carrying is nearly 0%.
In the end, it is her decision and hers alone. I'm just trying to get an idea as to what is out there since I am new to this and really don't have a clue.
Thanks for everyones help, I do appreciate it.