I've moved to a different city and began college, they don't know where I'm at for now. I was going to move to New England where some of my family is at, but the man's wife can't have any more children and he has one daughter, and begged me to stay and says he wants visitation and wants to be a part of my baby's life. I feel like I'm betraying my child if I take it from the father but his wife's entire family hates me and resents my pregnancy and if they remain together I would be afraid for it to stay with them. They hate each other and fight constantly, she screams and breaks things, physically attacks him and even if I could deal with my child being around that I don't want her and her family making it feel like there's something wrong with it or making it feel ashamed because of what it's parents did. Even though he pays the bills, everything is in her name and he recently bought a two story house and big piece of land that he has put a lot of work into, on top of the fact that everyone there knows them, it's a small town and he's surrounded by them and works with her entire family. If he left her he would have to move and leave his own family and work somewhere else just to escape them, he'd have to start over from scratch. Which I suppose that's too much to hope for anyway. When his wife was calling me and harassing me that's what she was bragging about, all the physical things in his life she has control of. I've lost everything because of the situation but I guess deep down I'm hoping after college when I have "more to offer" and I have his child he'll feel safer leaving her, unless he likes being abused by a crazy person.