IMHO, the coolest ladies are also at least a bit Tomboyish.
My suggestions are similar to the others with some significant exceptions, however.
1. Go to the NRA website and get yourself into the Basic Pistol course. Usually, the instructor or other students will have a gun that you can use before you make that big decision and get your first gun.
2. Find a local gun club range. Preferably one with an group of folks doing action pistol shooting, such as IDPA or USPSA. Go there and talk to them, ask them if they'll help you make the "which gun to buy" decision by letting you shoot some of theirs. Most of teh guys I know are VERY willing to try to help a newcomer & let the newcomer shoot a few rounds through their gun. While most of the guys will be shooting full-size pistols, some of them will be carrying smaller guns like the Kahr PM9 or possibly one of the pocket size 380's such as the Ruger LCP, S&W Bodyguard, or Sig P238.
Don't assume that the best gun for you is a little 380. Yes, they are the smallest & Lightest but their recoil is considerably snappier and less comfortable than a larger gun. My wife discovered this slowly. She started out buying a tiny Ruger LCP and then a larger Walther PK380 and didn't like either. Nor does she like my Sig P238. My Kahr K9 is all stainless, but still not fun for her and her Sig P6 is a bit big for her to carry. Eventually, she discovered that a 3" Officer size 1911 is easy to carry and a soft shooter. And that big hole at the end of the barrel makes her smile. So, she's got a Kimber Ultra Carry II now and loves it.
FYI, the Kahr PM45 is also a soft shooter and its DAO trigger makes it a simpler carry gun.