I don't like the commercial concealed bags either. They scream she's carrying. I personally buy Fossil handbags. I hunt until I find one that has a big pocket that can be designated as my gun only pocket. There are several friendly ones that can be carried cross body. Small bags tend to have a front zipper or flap that is quickly accessible. My larger Fossil totes have a zipper in the front too. The designated pocket has to be roomy enough to carry my 9 or my 45. My daughterinlaw found a darling small cross body at Belk, inexpensive, trendy, and only $20. It has a padded pocket. It was probably meant for a tablet. With a little searching and exploring, you can find over the counter purses that work well for carry. But, be sure to practice drawing from that pocket. Grab that purse with one hand and draw with your other. Shop till you drop.