Am I in the wrong?

[CapGun]

Where's the Civility??? The SIL does have some input while her children are there. She should have asked you way before this to not please take any of your guns out when her children are there. Not demand it but ask. If you disagreed with complying then it would be up to her to not bring her kids over. It's your house, your rules except to go against her wishes when it comes to her kids. That is not unreasonable and there is remedy.
With you complying then you could begin the unlikely prospect of educating her since all would be civil. So she was wrong and you weren't civil either.
As far as you asking if you could bring a friend to dinner... If your wife does most of the cooking and cleaning that was the right thing to do.
As far as asking if you could go and shoot I think you meant that as tongue in cheek. If not it was also nice to do because your wife may have wanted to do something with you. I assume you like each other as I do with my wife.
Clearly you don't have to ask but isn't that a nice thing to do?
If I just showed up with a friend for dinner there would be no prob but if I had the time and advance knowledge I would ask/mention it. Of course I have no problem cooking and neither would my wife!
So where's the civility?

 

[DocHollywood]

If this were to happen to me, I would have asked her to calm down, then ask her simple gun questions. I would have tried to educate her. If she were to get lost in liberal or socialist logic, then I would give her ass the boot...

 

[rogrrr]

I’ve been asked about owning/carrying/shooting my gun(s) a few times by people who do not understand why more and more people are now carrying and have come up with a good thread to make the people understand what it is for. I immediately ask them if they have car insurance and they tell me that it is the law that they have to have it. I then ask them if they have insurance on their house. They tell me that it is a good idea to have that, too. So then I ask "ARE YOU TELLING ME THAT YOU REALLY LOOK FORWARD TO USING YOUR INSURANCE/FILING A CLAIM ?"

They think for a moment and tell me that they never want to have use it.
At that point, I tell them that THIS, pointing to my gun, is insurance and I, like you, hope to NEVER have to use it, either.

(maybe) The light goes on and they begin to understand why I carry. I then explain that violence and terror DO NOT MAKE APPOINTMENTS and can show up/happen anywhere, anytime or anyplace. I tell them that is what insurance is for – better to have it and never use it than to need it and not have it. Your insurance comes into play AFTER some type of incident happens. Mine prevents an incident FROM happening. Yours is REactive, mine is PROactive.
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So, if I have a few minutes, I explain the sheepdog, sheep and wolf, (a short story LTC Dave Grossman tells in his seminars) and how the sheepdog is there to protect the sheep when the wolf shows up. And the dog doesn’t know who the sheep are, nor does he care. He just PROTECTS them without hesitation. And THAT is what I practice for, too.

HTH....

 

[Ghost Rider]

Regardless of what others here think, you handled the situation perfectly. No one would ever tell me what I can or can`t do in my house and not expect to get there ass chewed.

 

[squirrelhunter]

No one would ever tell me what I can or can`t do in my house and not expect to get there ass chewed.

Same here.I agree completely.

 

[JJSwiontek]

Not knowing the history that you have with your sister-in-law, I can only say that you missed an oppertunity to educate her about what she "knows" about gun safety.

I would have started with the flat-out statement to your sister-in-law, "Everything you know about gun safety is wrong!" When she challenges my statement, I would say, "OK, what do you 'know'?"

I would proceed to disprove every lie that she had been told about guns. It may not change her that day, but it might plant a seed.

 

[superprincess]

im sorry in my first post. i was typing on my I phone and hopped on my shop's computer. my wife told her sister my sister in law to shut her hole. i have to much respect to talk to my wife that way.

I would hope you have to much respect to talk to your wife that way. Just because she is your wife doesn't make her your property. Good luck and best wishes with your sister-in-law!