Thank you, everyone, for all the advice. We rented all the guns we were considering and some that we weren't and our results were surprising. The recoil of the tiny 380s were unacceptable to my wife, so the TCP was out, and my top ten list flipped almost exactly. The SCCY ranked towards the bottom of the firing experience, worsted only by the Taurus Millennium G2. The top two, after firing, were the Kahr CW9 and the Kahr CM9. My wife's top two were the Ruger LC380 and the Kahr CW380. I hadn't read up much on the Kahr's, because I thought they were too expensive. After a great deal of more research into all the guns on our list, we decided to go with the CW9 for me, and the CT380 for her.
I ordered them from Tombstone Tactical, with a spare mag for the .380, for just over $650 for both. They arrived Thursday and will be going to the range on Monday.