I don't drink, but my wife does. We share a safe. When she is imbibing, her sidearm is in its normal place; nightstand. She has shown no signs of aggressive behavior while tipping a glass, in the 13 years we've been together. When I'm home, I'm the alpha person, and carry until I turn-in. If I'm not there, she carries her sidearm into every room she goes. Even has a concealed spot within reach if she is showering. It was such a good spot, I now use it as well.
When I'm gone, and she leaves, she puts her sidearm in the safe, and locks it. She doesn't carry. When she gets home, she gets her sidearm, then locks the safe.
This routine works for us. I've tried to convince her to carry, but she is not comfortable enough to do so. An ex-husband's threat with her head in the kitchen sink has traumatized her. He had a .357 magnum resting on her head with the hammer cocked. He was drunk, as usual she told me.
I'm proud she got over most of her fear of firearms with my help. We go to the range and shoot together. She wants nothing to do with my AR, for some reason even though it recoils far less than her .38 special. She has shot it, and it was her decision to not shoot it again, even though she kicked my butt at some 200 to 300 yard targets. (sigh) Maybe it was too easy for her?
I've told her she doesn't have to be a victim to anyone who points a gun at her. Sometimes I see that fear in her eyes when she sees me suit-up with sidearm and mags, before I leave. Wish I could do more. I believe one of the ranges here has a ladies only day. That might help if the girls have been through some trauma, and the reason they shoot. More I think about it, the better that sounds. We guys can't comprehend the fear and emotions felt by our loved ones.
Sorry this turned into a personal tome about my wife, drinking, and firearm abuse.
I'll shut up now and go drink my Shirley Temple.