Patience and Prayer pay off - Men, please read this thread

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Daven

"Gimpy"
I posted this story over at DefensiveCarry.com. It was intended to be short, but ended up long. Thanks for reading.

Patience and Prayer Pay Off. Men- read this story please
Ok, so here's my story, I will try to keep it short.

I've loved guns for my whole life. I shot my first gun at age 6. I've been married for 16 years. Shortly after my wedding, I told my wife I wanted a gun. My wife told me "My old boyfriend once hold a gun point-blank to my forehead and I am terrified of guns, I don't want any in the house". I let it go for a while, then asked her if I got a gun and kept it in a small safe while at home was it ok, she said yes, but even if I came home I had to put it in the safe before giving her a kiss or doing anything else. We agreed. I carried my Sig for about 5 years then.

I stopped carrying when my MS progressed. Then about a year ago I got interested again. I asked her the same question, we had since sold my little 1"x1" safe in a move. She said the same thing. I then asked if I could please try to teach her that gun's aren't bad, people can be. She walked out of the room, I took that as "not now".

8 months ago Constitutional Carry passed in AZ. I REALLY got the fever then. Through discussion, my prayers and knowing my marriage and wife were ultimately more important than guns, I helped her understand them. She still wouldn't touch one or even want me to show one to her. I got a Beautiful Pro Carry II for Christmas and she asked that I keep it on the top shelf of the closet when I'm home. I did. It's WAY better than the old days. I don't have to run to the safe when I get home, I can take my time, I can now even keep it on the bedside table. I also have a 1962 six shooter from my dad. That I keep on the shelf int he coset. Fast forward to last weekend (been busy this week to post this) and we go to the grand opening of my range/LGS's new location opening and she is looking at the guns, and see's little girls as young as 10 signing up to shoot balloons int he range. I sign up to shoot and she says "can I go in with you"? YES!!!!!! I go in, load my 6" .38 revolver my dad gave me a few weeks ago. she looks at it with eyes wide open. Then it happened...

"Do you think I can shoot it"? WOW, WHAT A CHANGE! I said sure, I took the time to teach her the rules. I then helped her learn to hold it, then she shot. Quite well actually, she shot an evil gun 18 times. I am SO proud of her.

The moral of the story is I had patience with her. I took the time, I prayed about it. I taught her that her boyfriend instilled a fear in her that was un-teachable.

On the other hand, this could end up biting me in the behind. today she said "when can we go back to the range? can I shoot your .45 next"? I feel confident that I will be buying her her own little pink .38 or .380 by Christmas.

Please respect your wives men. Never pull the macho "I'm the mad of the house" crap. it's not the 1950's. Respect and faith pay off in the end.

P.S. I now want an AR-15, she still thinks those are "scary looking". Next hurdle in view.
 
Good on ya! As I feel confident that you are both Christian, have her read Luke 22:36. My DW shoots as well and sometimes better than I. It's nice to know "she's got my back". Mine loves to shoot my AR!
 
Well, we know who wears the pants- I have not a clue why your praying, she should be praying that your intentions are to protect her against some other idiot holding a weapon to her head- Now we know why misogamy is on the rise!!!!!!!!!!!!
"I WOULD NOT PURCHASE KLAUSSNER FURNITURE"
 
I am working on getting my 2nd wife to shoot. She knew up front what she was getting into when she married me :biggrin:

She has expressed interest but hasn't gone with me to the range as of yet. She has no issues with me carrying or that there are guns in the house. Some times she will sit and watch me clean them after a range trip and will ask questions on how they work and will even handle them to see what feels best in her hand. I know she keeps going back to an old .22 revolver I have as the one she says isn't too heavy and feels right to her. I would happily have her armed with a .22 if that's what she can hit with rather than miss with anything else I own. 6 shots of .22 is bound to ruin anyones day :wink:! Only she will know when she is actually ready to pull a trigger and catch the fever. On that day I am sure to loose an "old friend" in that .22 but will have gained another shooting buddy so it will all work out :yes2:
 
I thing you did it the right way, I still don't know how to approach this to my wife, not that she never have shot a gun before, but that she did have a bad experience when she was a child and saw her father doing something in front of the family that wasn't suppose happen at all, She was 13years old when it happen.... What advise can i get and situation like this.. Thank You
 
Glad to hear she came around. Im kinda happy my wife isnt too angry about guns, she just asks that if its off my hip, its in a safer place, no kids around so I just slide it under the couch when its not on my hip, and when I go into another room, it goes back on my hip.
Glad to hear things are panning out for yal.
 
BIGOTIST said:
Well, we know who wears the pants- I have not a clue why your praying, she should be praying that your intentions are to protect her against some other idiot holding a weapon to her head- Now we know why misogamy is on the rise!!!!!!!!!!!!
"I WOULD NOT PURCHASE KLAUSSNER FURNITURE"
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To me this is a VERY RUDE comment. I would not go to your thread and say something like this. I also tried to PM you and you replied very rudely to that. Moderators: Please delete this persons reply from my thread. I am personally offended by such a rude/awful person.
 
BIGOTIST said:
Well, we know who wears the pants- I have not a clue why your praying, she should be praying that your intentions are to protect her against some other idiot holding a weapon to her head- Now we know why misogamy is on the rise!!!!!!!!!!!!
"I WOULD NOT PURCHASE KLAUSSNER FURNITURE"
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Don't drink and post. Seriously.

(See what I did there? I gave the poster the benefit of the doubt that he/she is drunk and not seriously this stupid).
 
solopr said:
I thing you did it the right way, I still don't know how to approach this to my wife, not that she never have shot a gun before, but that she did have a bad experience when she was a child and saw her father doing something in front of the family that wasn't suppose happen at all, She was 13years old when it happen.... What advise can i get and situation like this.. Thank You
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Patience, matey...patience....lots of it...and oh, like Daven said, prayers do help too...sometimes.:sarcastic:
 
I feel your story, my wife did not want a gun in the house, little kids and all. One night we had a break in, it changed things for us. My kids have all been instructed how to act with and around weapons of ANY type. The wife is not so much involved but yet we agree that having a weapon in the house is a good choice, the what if thought. Now if the funds were there I would own 4 or 5. She has even asked to handle them, at least to understand the nuts and bolts of a new one. Again, you are right, peace in the house is always a must with understanding, safety and training. Anyone that makes a comment againt this story or state 'who wears the pants' must not understand the sensitive part of any relationship. Working together to make things work and to give and take.
Only if our govoernment would work this way.
By the way I am a proud husband and father of 20 years, grandfather, strong gun owner and trainer and current Active Duty Military for 20 plus years. I will not go down without a fight for those around me, nor should you.
Strike First, always!!!!

Spear-99
 
My wife was and is absolutely not into firearms. However, over the years (27 so far) of marriage she has encouraged me to follow my likes and hobbies as I have hers. I agree, mutual support is what makes a marriage go, at least mine. Respect? Oh yes, nothing good happens without that. Hats off to the OP on this one.

Oh, I'm not too bright, what does not buying Klaussner furniture have to do with anything? Or is this just a professional troll out looking for trouble?
MR
 
G50AE said:
The title of this thread says, "Men, please read this thread." So why did you stop to read it?[/QUOTE

I didn't it hear it say anything, but I realized as I read it, that is was written from a bible thumping wuss- I said nothing that was a personal insult to you or your master and you in turn question my masculinity- Well, here I am and your welcome to challenge my gender at your earliest convenience, if your master will give you permission-
The extent of most lower class posters, is they judge my comment by my pseudonym- I did my thesis in college on bigotry and was afforded that name by my classmates- If the posters were to read there condescending replies, it would substantiate where the BIGOTRY is being stated- It falls in the same category as DISCRIMINATION, even to the treats from administration- If you don't appreciate what my comment states (says) don't besmirch me for your indiscretions- It's probably in your bible somewhere~
My Blessings,
Praise Allah~
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Mosbyranger said:
My wife was and is absolutely not into firearms. However, over the years (27 so far) of marriage she has encouraged me to follow my likes and hobbies as I have hers. I agree, mutual support is what makes a marriage go, at least mine. Respect? Oh yes, nothing good happens without that. Hats off to the OP on this one.
Oh, I'm not too bright, what does not buying Klaussner furniture have to do with anything? Or is this just a professional troll out looking for trouble?
MR
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I agree whole heartedly with your thread and your compatibility with your wife of 27yrs- Congratulations!!!!! However, as with lower class, not so bright posters,you have to belittle or besmirch someone because of your ignorance-
I am not a professional troll looking for trouble, I am informing the more intelligent public to take heed in my statement-This troll is posting what is referred to as a credo, I better do it in bigger letters for you, CREDO- It informs people to do some research in this particular product because there may be issues, and there are- So as you prefer to throw stones, I prefer in someway to assist the public from harm-
Turn on a light,
Praise Allah~
 
thanks for this inspiration. my wife is also terrified of guns. when i was a police officer, we had a similar policy about the safe. after 20 years of marriage, she finally let me purchase my own glock. she still refuses to even look at it. i hope one day she will let me teach her to shoot since i find both shooting and teaching to be my favorite hobbies
 
While your type of relationship wouldnt work for me, I am glad she can appreciate the experience with a firearm and that you both are enjoying the experience. My spouse wasnt wild about firearms either and still isnt. She has and does things I am not to thrilled with either but she enjoys them. It's all good.
 
I was fortunate for the wife I have, I have been married for 21 years and my wife has been onboard with my crazy love for guns. I am trying to teach her to shoot herself, she doesn't have the confidence as much as my daughter. She turns 21 next year and she is chomping at the bit to get her conceal and carry permit. The new pink guns has got her more interested and we are looking at maybe a .38 revolver something simple to get familiar with, then on to bigger and better guns. Well glad it's working out for you stay safe.
 
Good for you. Great story of respect for your wife. Nice to see how she came around. Your respect and understanding was the key.
Just one question. She hasn't asked if your life insurance is paid up has she?:haha:
 
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