Springfield XD9801HCSP06 9MM 3IN BLK PKG $465.00 SHIPS FREE
This is the one that I am actually carrying. Have about 1.5K rounds thru it with no malfunctions period. Marvelously easy to strip down and clean, too. Plus it comes with 2 different mags that allow you to get the full grip size with the longer one (and it holds extra rounds, too). Recoil is snappy with the short barrel but no worse than on any other short and light weight gun. You could skip the kit that comes with it but then again it does not sell for much less without it and it does get you started. After a Galco Matrix holster I have just switched to a Blackhawk Serpa Concealment Holster (it's the one with the paddle release) that I like best so far. That one also fits any other XD model which is another plus.
For example this one which I just got
Springfield 45ACP 4" COMPACT Black $508.00 SHIPS FREE
This is correctly called a COMPACT as opposed to a SUB COMPACT. The grip is just a wee bit longer and the barrel has an additional inch but it's still doable as CCW if you dress for it. And having 10 45 ACP in the short mag and 13 in the long one isn't bad at all. Just ran 200 rounds thru it out of the box and there were no problems at all. Recoil is absolutely manageable for a 45.
On both models the short grip works reasonable well unless you have really big paws and with the extended mag it has to fit just about anybody.