I understand.. I firmly believe each person's situation is different, even if only slightly, and they must find a solution that works for them.She can control the recoil fine but after shooting my 9mm or 38 she is in pain i have a 9 shot 22 she loves to shoot and will put all 9 in a target but wants something a little bigger to carry thats why i was thinking 380
I recently purchased Sig Sauer p238 Equniox with factory installed Hogue wraparound rubber grips with finger grooves. It is SAO so you carry it cocked and locked just like a 1911. The recoil is really light with most of it being absorbed by the grip. The trigger pull is also light and crisp. The only problem she may have is operating the safety, but I don't think it should be much of an issue. It comes a tritium fiber optic front sight and rear night sights. It also comes with 2 magazines,1 a standard 6 round and an extended 7 round with a rubber but plate that fits perfectly with the rubber grip to help with her grip. The price was $499.00 at Palmetto State Armory.
EDIT - I forgot to mention that the racking of the slide is very easy.
You make some very points. I have limited experience with 380's and was comparing the Sig p238 with my other 380 which is Ruger LCP. While the LCP is an excellent conceal carry gun the recoil is much more pronounced compared to the Sig p238 and trigger pull and control is much easier since it is SAO vs the DAO of the LCP.My wife has the same P238. While the recoil isn't heavy I found it to be fairly snappy. I wouldn't exactly call the trigger "light" either. My guess is, it is somewhere around 8 pounds. I really have to concentrate on trigger control to make an accurate shot with it. (I'm spoiled.. Kimber.. enough said).
That said, I like it. A lot. The Equinox model in particular has a GREAT front sight; hybrid fibre/tritium that is really easy to see, day or night. I will be picking up it's big brother, a 938. Hopefully they make an Equinox model. I love that front sight.
edit to say - I read somewhere that Colt is resurrecting the Mustang, which is essentially the same design.