I'm 24, married, 2 kids and one on the way born and raised in Oklahoma living in NC. Husband is deployed to Iraq and My house got shot last night. Literally - a bullet came through my sons window (3feet from where he sleeps) went through the wall into another room and the cops didn't arrest any one. ANY advice other than to MOVE... If I could just walk away from my mortgage I would.. Not an option though
Security cameras are not cheap but are a great idea if you have to stay there. I would imagine it was a random drive by and your house got in the way, but if there were more lights around they might not be as quick to shoot. Call the city and request more lights, call the power company and request some more light. We used to live in the country and for a monthly fee you could get dusk to dawn light poles installed from the power company, that is if the city will not install some more. If you get the neighbors together you might be able to split the cost of the light pole. I mean getting room darkening shades VS safety, go with the shades.
I am hoping you carry all the time. I have an elastic belt and I wear it with my 45 and holster all day every day. The only time I take it off is for sleep and shower. I want one of those things that go on the bed so you can reach your gun without laying it out in the open for someone to grab. I hope you have some kind of Dog for an alarm. Even a tiny dog can wake you up when they hear something. Never rely completely on an alarm, your little dog will warn you if the alarm fails or is not turned on.
If you are in an area where shooting can happen then someone can bust down your door in broad daylight. If your gun is on the counter, in the bedroom, wherever, it is not going to protect you and or your kids. If it is on your hip you have a chance.
My husband laughs @ me for wearing my gun in the house. I never want to have to use it, in fact I feel pretty safe in this neighborhood, but a couple of houses have been broken into, and one while the people were asleep. (NO DOG) They just robbed them and never woke them, but still it is creepy. The other neighbor had dogs and told them to shut up, then heard a noise and caught the kid in his house and ran the teens out, he had his gun put away and did not bring it to bear. Now he keeps his gun with him. I want to take some self defense classes, and you should too. You are protecting your kids here mother bear.. If you are always wearing your gun then you do not have to worry about your kids getting a hold of it. How can they when it is on you.
Take many steps and maybe look into a private security place to do a free estimate. They can help you get window covers, that you can get out of. They can help you with lighting etc. Nothing can prevent that stray bullet, but if you live in that type of neighborhood then you have more to worry about than just stray bullets. even if they tear down the house, or the city does something about it, the kids still live in the neighborhood and will start robbing people for money to supply their party needs. Good window covers lights and cameras, even fake cameras can make them look elsewhere. They look for the easiest mark, do not be an easy mark. Fenced in back yards are easy marks. Those tall fences hide them from neighbors and they can take their time getting into your house. Chain link fence for you dog is ok cause neighbors can see in. We live on a corner lot and when someone walks into our back yard security lights come on. Not very inviting to the BG's.
Oh ANOTHER good point is when someone gets in the first thing they get is your wallet, purse money clip etc. Because you take it off and lay it by the door or on the kitchen counter or table, out in the open. I put mine in a drawer in the bedroom so they will have to look for it. Don keeps his wallet in a drawer now too.