We most all agree that what should happen is that (unless there is some sort of physical threat) that a person (and their wife) should walk away from the simple insult. And some have even mentioned their wife says "why would you fight" and "that would be silly".
But, two things come to mind here for me.
I have gotten too old (too smart?) to risk getting hurt over what I now consider "social violance".
I do not have the speed or flexability to go-to-blows with the younger generation now. And, I have also learned (the hard way) as a younger man in the past...that just because you are "standing up for what's right" doesn't mean you will "win". GOOD GUYS do NOT always win.
I had to be 23 years old before I learned THAT valuable lesson. I grew up with that same "cultural" thing about "stand up for a lady".
But, especially with the legalities of concealed carry... "social violence" should always be walked away from.
It's not worth the risk, and you don't know how many "friends" the jerk has waiting to crawl out of the woodwork, and it can immediatly turn into a one-to-three or four situation. And, in fact even if you "win" you can "lose" in court.
(lose everything, in fact).
As I said I'm old, and I just don't have the reflexes to "play around" anymore. THAT'S EXACTLY why I DO carry.
I will "walk away" if possible.
IF it's NOT possible, then it means that it has gotten past the "social fisticuffs" situation into a "asocial or sociopathic violence" situation and I am then (did I mention I'm old?) going to immediately
attempt to use overwhelming force
meant to cripple or "stop" the threat...whether that means two to center-of-mass...or a punch to the throat or eyes.
Whatever method is available to me at that moment. But until I am forced into that situation, we will attempt to walk away.
That being said, I have often wondered what I would do if someone "spit" on my wife, or similar.
And would my wife "understand" if I walked away? How many times in life have we heard "oh that's silly to fight"...then when it happens it changes to "why didn't you stand up for me" ?
Thankfully, my wife is smarter than that...but I have had girlfrieds in the past that would "push" for the fight...just to satisfy their OWN vanity and ego.
It is a whole different world when we choose to accept the responsibility that comes with concealed carry.