There is still hope. If my wife can turn, so can yours. ( she is Canadian )When we first met, she knew of my affinity to guns, and why I was adamant on why I would NOT become a Canadian, & she would have tio come to the states if we were going to marry. ( along w/ the fact that I owned 2 "vicious" dogs, sadly 1 passed on after 12 years of faithful service. And, they made it illegal to own these "vicious" dogs in Ontario.) So, needless to say, I am staying an American!
I taught her how to shoot - on her own accord. She approached me one afternoon and asked me to teach her in the backyard, which I gladly did. She is a natural. She does better w/ a revolver than a semi. Just can't cycle it. No biggie. She enjoys shooting. I still have to let her try the guage, and am unsure if she will be able to handle it. Only time will tell.
When I first started carrying, she would pat me down to see if I had it. She was slightly nervous, but the more articles I showed her, the more comfortable she became. She still is a little questioning if I carry around the house, but I keep it concealed mainly, so none the wiser. I have dogs that WILL alet us if anyone starts up the drive, so no chance of me not beig able to get to a weapon if there is a threat approaching.
She knows I carry EVERYWHERE, and is more comfortable with it. In fact it has gotten to the point that she hopes I DO have it on me"just in case". She has told me that repeatedly. I guess having a baby also plays into that - the maternal instinct to protect. We were visiting the fam in Canada last year, and decided to take a walk. She was the one who commented on how she felt uneasy taking a walk @ night w/o me packing. GOOD GIRL!
I guess the point of all this rambling is that you should just let her come to accept this on her terms. Yes, you can help it along subtly. I tried to push a little in the past and only pushed her away from enjoying a wonderful hobby. SO, now I learned that subtlety is the best way. Continue to carry, and like others stated, just keep it concealed. She will hopefully, eventually warm up to it, and be glad you are being proactive in keeping the family safe.
Good luck. Be persistant. ...............mot