Got her home, now what?

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As a guy in my late 20's I'm out there in the dating game and enjoying life. I also CC whenever I'm not at work on the clock. I ran into this situation the other day and it caught me a little off guard... Boy meets girl, boy and girl have a good night, boy and girl leave together. My question is: when going back to my car and/or my place is not in the cards, how do you handle this situation? Eventually the conversation needs to (and will) be had but those spur of the moment encounters pose a tricky situation.

So guys, what do you do? And ladies, what would you like a guy to say/do? All replies are appreciated and after a bit I'll let you know how I handled it. Thanks!!
 
Sorry I'm not good at reading between the lines, exactly what are you asking about? what to do about your weapon? what she might say about it? what to do with it if things get real personal? I would say right off the bat keep it to yourself, but if things are serious tell her about it right away, please repost as to exactly what your saying
 
If things get personal before the "I carry" talk what would you do with the firearm and what would you say if she comes upon it before the talk? This time around luck was on my side as she slipped away long enough for me to make safe, slip the magazine into one shoe and firearm into the other. Sounds silly now but it was the best I could come up with at the time. But it's the first time I hadn't had the opportunity to secure it beforehand so I figured I'd seek some opinions from the group. Thanks!
 
perhaps when you take off your pants just keep the gun in the holster and fold the pants around holster and gun and do it in a way she won't notice it if she don't know yet......or if she happens to see it just calmly explain you carry and hope she don't have a problem with it .......best wiehes
 
As a married woman, can't help you! But I would recommend carrying a trigger lock or something in your pocket... will make your shoe a bit more secure. :-)
 
Well I guess it could get down to horny you are, if your fixin to get after it in a hurry, put the gun on the night stand and have at it, if she freaks out or (gets cold) so to speak, find one that don't, I guess I'm lucky been shooting almost as long as we been married, and she is a dam good shooter, of course we are getting older so getting after it don't happen like it used to, but guns never made a difference one way or the other
 
My question to you, are you ashamed of your firearm? If so, then why are you with this woman? Just to get a piece of tail? Which is more important to you, your safety or gettin' some?

If you're serious about someone enough to have personal relations, then you should be serious enough and man enough to have a talk about your firearm rather than hiding it like a little boy.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but that's how I feel on the topic.

If it's a one-night stand, chances are neither of you have much respect for one another, so what difference will it make if you have a firearm?
 
wolf_fire said:
If it's a one-night stand, chances are neither of you have much respect for one another, so what difference will it make if you have a firearm?
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Well, she might freak out and call the cops and tell them he's trying to murder her. So... yeah. Illogical, of course, but bringing a strange man home is, I would assume, a bit nerve wracking to begin with. If she's terrified of guns, it won't go over well.

It did sound to me like he's talking about one night stands. That's nothing I'm interested in, but it works for some people!
 
Watch a bunch old James Bond movies - see how he handles that situation and emulate.

And you're sure right about having "the talk" about firearms first whenever possible. That difference of opinion can be a deal breaker. But don't assume anything. I'm 69 and still date and the last few ladies I've dated either already had their own permit or agreed to go out to the range with me and give it a try. They've all enjoyed the experience of shooting at the range, even when they don't plan to own one themselves.

So, don't assume the lady is anti-gun. Its normal and legal. If its her place it might be best to ask before going in...just respect.
 
JoJoMedic said:
Got her home, now what?
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You just "did it." While she's waiting patiently for you to freshen up in the bathroom, you went right online and asked 54,000 total strangers what comes next. Sounds like a recipe for this kind of encounter, you hound you:












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I'm 66 and talked to my girlfriend about me carrying she's all for it and has even agreed to go to the range to learn to shoot, maybe even get her own concealed carry. Don't hide it if your going to carry and date at least be honest wife the young lady.
 
"Loose Lips Sink Ships". The girl will think it is cool or she will not. Do not count on them being quite about you carrying. They talk and next thing you know everybody knows. Problems will become apparent to you way to late. Issues that can effect your career and personal life. Concealed is the only way in every way is the only way always. Thes less people know the better for all. Untill you meet the one you trust with your life, they don't need to know.
 
Seeya said:
"Loose Lips Sink Ships". The girl will think it is cool or she will not. Do not count on them being quite about you carrying. They talk and next thing you know everybody knows. Problems will become apparent to you way to late. Issues that can effect your career and personal life. Concealed is the only way in every way is the only way always. Thes less people know the better for all. Untill you meet the one you trust with your life, they don't need to know.
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How many of you want to set this person straight about the efficaciousness of open carrying? So by your statements, are we to assume that everyone who open carries has negative issues that have affected their career and their personal life? And by your statement "concealed is the only way in every way is the only way always" you have just alienated an entire segment of the carrying community. I might have some respect for your statements if you had mentioned that you carry concealed for these reasons, but when you make such a bold statement which tells everyone that there is only one way to carry always, that my friend, is narrow-mindedness at its highest level.
 
JoJoMedic said:
As a guy in my late 20's I'm out there in the dating game and enjoying life. I also CC whenever I'm not at work on the clock. I ran into this situation the other day and it caught me a little off guard... Boy meets girl, boy and girl have a good night, boy and girl leave together. My question is: when going back to my car and/or my place is not in the cards, how do you handle this situation? Eventually the conversation needs to (and will) be had but those spur of the moment encounters pose a tricky situation.

So guys, what do you do? And ladies, what would you like a guy to say/do? All replies are appreciated and after a bit I'll let you know how I handled it. Thanks!!
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I have a small, single-gun portable quick-access safe in my car that uses a cable lock. I just grab that out of the trunk, and take it with me to where we end up.. hotel, her place, whatever.. and secure my firearm in that, cable locked to something immovable. It secures the firearm, keeps it within close proximity, prevents it from being taken if I fall asleep, and generally avoids the entire discussion all together unless it's a conversation I want to have.
 
Another good reason to pocket carry. When I drop my pants, the only way someone knows if I am carrying is if I drop them to fast and they hear the thud.
 
Ask her how she feels about guns while at diner or whatever you are doing before her place, car or where ever you plan to go if she is not gun friendly call it a night and if there's a next time lock it up in a car safe before you go on your date and then tell her you have your ccw for your safety and see how it goes from there
 
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