I went to a range with a couple of new shooters who both owned XDs. I personally observed the female fail to get a proper grip on the gun and be unable to fire it as a result.
I decided then and there never to purchase a Springfield XD of any model
The Glock 19 is one of the most popular handguns on the planet. Parts and accessories are ubiquitous you can find them everywhere. You can pick up magazines for them at a gun show all day long. They will also function with a Glock 17 magazine. The 19 is big enough to fight with but small enough to easily conceal.
The XDM really doesn't bring any of that to the table
Eidolon...... really ? a woman can't get a good grip on a firearm and you dismiss the entire line because of that?