First time to carry!!!!

[bryanmckay]

Today was my first time to carry since I received my firearms permit. My family and I went to a local steakhouse for supper tonight. It was the first time to carry in public and it felt really great. I was a little nervous but still felt good. I was adjusting my firearm on my side and my wife noticed. Her response was "WHAT IS THAT?!" I replied, "my firearm." She acted very critical, and I explained to her that it is my RIGHT and my duty to protect my family! I asked her did she have a problem with it and the mood changed.

 

[revolverboy]

Does she shoot? Is she supportive of you shooting? If not, have you taken her to the range to shoot? You may find more support if she gets some trigger time.

When I first started carrying my ex always asked or even tried to feel if the gun was on me. Before I carried a gun, I also got into have a knife or three or me. She didn't like that either until I had to explain that a knife is a very useful tool. Many times it was needed to cut an apple for the young kids or to cut cleats off soccer shoes. I have a friend who told her that she should be happy that I have things that can be used to protect her if needed. (We're divorced now )

I just think you need to get her onboard with the gun thing.

 

[Plates5]

Why not?

Today was my first time to carry since I received my firearms permit. My family and I went to a local steakhouse for supper tonight. It was the first time to carry in public and it felt really great. I was a little nervous but still felt good. I was adjusting my firearm on my side and my wife noticed. Her response was "WHAT IS THAT?!" I replied, "my firearm." She acted very critical, and I explained to her that it is my RIGHT and my duty to protect my family! I asked her did she have a problem with it and the mood changed.

Bryan. Why would you have not had that discussion during the process of the CC? why haven't you tried to take her with u during practice sessions?
Why not train with your lifetime partner, it is the easiest way to relieve her fears if she shoots with you. Just be ready for your women to soon out shoot you at the range. I myself try to include all family members participation in safety and practice session, now including grandkids. Fear and curiosity are dependent on the unknown. Just my two cents.

 

[Lowjiber]

When I met my wife (many moons ago), I told her I carried. We went to the range shortly afterward, and she's been hooked ever since.

She has her own guns now and a permit. I recently bought a Gen 4 G19, and when we took it to the range for the mandatory 200 initial rounds, I asked her to help me run it through its paces. As we were leaving the range, she told me to "Go by Spurlock's (my LGS) on the way home, because this is now MY gun...you'll need another one." So i did.:laugh:

 

[Deserteagle]

Every girl I've met I always told on the first date that if she has a problem with guns, the relationship is not going to work out. Im more than willing to try to change minds about guns but if somebody has been brainwashed against them, its not going to work.

 

[mappow]

Congrats and the nerves will wan after awhile. But your alertness will not. As for the spouse, mine was a bit nervous at the beginning. She as well wanned after while and now asks as we're going out if I have my piece. She still is not real happy about it when I OC but she's more concerned about other people getting upset. I told her "Not my problem" if they do. I don't OC to be confrontational, I OC because I can.
Now a few years down the road, she wants a permit and her own carry weapon. Loves going to the range and even busts off a few rounds on my M1 Garand. Have joined a local gun club and go as often as time and money will allow. Stay safe and ALWAYS stay alert.

 

[apvbguy]

Today was my first time to carry since I received my firearms permit. My family and I went to a local steakhouse for supper tonight. It was the first time to carry in public and it felt really great. I was a little nervous but still felt good. I was adjusting my firearm on my side and my wife noticed. Her response was "WHAT IS THAT?!" I replied, "my firearm." She acted very critical, and I explained to her that it is my RIGHT and my duty to protect my family! I asked her did she have a problem with it and the mood changed.

it sounds very strange that this is the first time you've talked about your carrying a gun with your wife.

 

[hogwylde]

it sounds very strange that this is the first time you've talked about your carrying a gun with your wife.

My wife wasn't pro or anti gun but didn't really see the need to have one. Once I told her I was going for my permit she just assumed it was going to be left locked up in the house. I carried for over a month before telling her. She was surprised but not shocked or angry and overall ok with it. Once, she realized that I was carrying responsibly and nothing "bad" was becoming of it, she is now comfortable with it and frequently asks if I am carrying (because she feels safer when I am).

I still don't hug her well though! ;o)

 

[bryanmckay]

Wow! Thanks to all of you. All of your responses are very helpful and very encouraging. Actually, my wife is a deer hunter, so she is familiar with shooting a rifle but not a handgun. So, I will try to get her to the range and get familiar with a handgun.

 

[Bill Amsden]

All women are different,bless their hearts, I thought my wife of thirty years would be OK with me CC legally, She likes shooting, doesn't like the noise from the larger calibers though.I took my training classes and got my CC permit and spent a lot of time and money at the range to become more accurate and to do everything right. Practiced drawing the un loaded weapon in the garage for I don't know how long and she knew what I was doing. I CC for a month before she realized and that was only because she reached around me to give me a hug and felt the pistol. Now I have found she has gone to checking my hiding spot for that particular pistol I was carrying that day. Three weeks ago I listened for thirty minutes why it wasn't necessary to carry a gun into our local grocery store as I had that particular day. The very next day the store was robbed by 2 BG's with guns. She heard this the same time I did. Funny how there was no more discussion about CC in to a grocery store.

As for the pistol she looks for to see if I am carrying or not, it has been left in the same spot for some time, at least I know that she knows where it is at IF she needs it. The gun I carry full time and trained with is in my brief case at night and on my hip in the morning when I leave the house. I really despise those thirty minute lectures. One day she'll figure it out I suppose.

 

[apvbguy]

All women are different,bless their hearts, I thought my wife of thirty years would be OK with me CC legally, She likes shooting, doesn't like the noise from the larger calibers though.I took my training classes and got my CC permit and spent a lot of time and money at the range to become more accurate and to do everything right. Practiced drawing the un loaded weapon in the garage for I don't know how long and she knew what I was doing. I CC for a month before she realized and that was only because she reached around me to give me a hug and felt the pistol. Now I have found she has gone to checking my hiding spot for that particular pistol I was carrying that day. Three weeks ago I listened for thirty minutes why it wasn't necessary to carry a gun into our local grocery store as I had that particular day. The very next day the store was robbed by 2 BG's with guns. She heard this the same time I did. Funny how there was no more discussion about CC in to a grocery store.

As for the pistol she looks for to see if I am carrying or not, it has been left in the same spot for some time, at least I know that she knows where it is at IF she needs it. The gun I carry full time and trained with is in my brief case at night and on my hip in the morning when I leave the house. I really despise those thirty minute lectures. One day she'll figure it out I suppose.

do yourself a favor and find a real self defense trainer to train with, all your playing is fine but unless you work with a pro you are only a danger to yourself with that weapon in your waist band

 

[TWright]

When I started carrying, my wife used to laugh and tease me and ask if it made me feel like a bad ass or something. I would play along because it was all in fun. Then one night, we had to walk to our car in a strange city, past the normal street dwellers. When she clenched my arm tightly and whispered "Do you have your gun?" I just smiled.

 

[belff31]

My wife wasn't to happy when I came home with my first gun last month, especially with two young kids in the house. She has gotten used to the fact that it is there and has started to take interest in wanting to learn to shoot. She also just wants to be told when I have it on me and not once has she noticed before I told her.

 

[WingRider]

My wife knew of my hunting and firearms in college when we were dating. Even took her and her roommate shooting. She liked my scoped .44 Redhawk the best. I sold that (still wished I didn't) and time passed. Got married, had 2 beautiful girls, and now take my oldest (10, minimum age at this range) to the range with me. She shoots a .22 I bought for her as much as me and sometimes my 9mm. I got my CC license and started carrying. My initial reason was so I could carry my Taurus .44 Tracker under my fishing vest or coat when outdoors alone. She's getting used to me carrying my 9mm more often now, but doesn't like me to carry it to work as they could make up some BS reason to fire me (state Supreme Court says I can carry). She was keenly aware I was taking a CC class, and that I had received my license. She also opened the mail from Utah when my non-resident license showed up from there. Didn't say a word. Just put it on my desk. My recommendation is to communicate with your spouse, even if it sucks for several minutes or days. Time is a great healer.

WingRider

 

[fudo]

do yourself a favor and find a real self defense trainer to train with, all your playing is fine but unless you work with a pro you are only a danger to yourself with that weapon in your waist band

do yourself a favor and find a real self defense trainer to train with,
This is good advise.

all your playing is fine but unless you work with a pro you are only a danger to yourself with that weapon in your waist band

This is nonsense.