I'm just trying to get some ideas as to what we should be looking for. She doesn't like revolvers, but has a really hard time with the slide on a semi. But I like the look of that video, so I'll have her give that a try. I'd much rather have her using a 9mm than a 380. Of course, that is just because I personally wouldn't go smaller than a 9mm. And on top of the tendinitis she has carpel tunnel and the beginnings of arthritis because she types a lot at work. She's done physical therapy and knows what to do to keep it from hurting, but she has very little hand strength.
Ultimately she will be the one who chooses her gun. But when we went to the store and asked about something easy to cock we just got some guy who couldn't be bothered wave us off saying that all the 9mm were going to be the same because of the spring. So his poor attitude and unwillingness to work with us has put her off trying even though she still really wants one.