As a matter of respect?

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walt629

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Out of respect for your friends do you tell them you're carrying, if they don't already know?

I have a group of friends that only a couple of them know that I carry. If I visit the friends that don't know about my carry status, it has been my personal practice to trunk the gun. And I do this out of respect for my friends. Plus I don't want anyone freaking out if the suddenly realize I have a gun in their house around their kids, wife, pet, whatever.

I expect to get the 'concealed is concealed. nobody needs to know' responses. That mentality works in the outside world where you're only violating the sanctity of a strangers business. But now we're talking about friends and people we hold dear to us.

How many of us will actually violate the sanctity of a friends home by carrying without getting permission from them to do so in their home?

Eventually I'll have to have the discussion with all of the members of my circle of friend but for now, I lock it in the trunk.
 
All my friends know I carry. Most of them carry as well so it's not an issue with them. I have one who doesn't carry but his wife isn't crazy about guns in the house. Out of respect for her I lock it in the truck if I'm at their house.

If I expect people to respect my right to legally carry elsewhere, I'll respect their right as private property owners to restrict guns in their homes.
 
For me it all depends on the situation.
If there will be numerous smaller kids around then I will probably lock it up inside the vehicle. If it's mostly older teens and adults, I will probably be carrying.
I have had a few instances when an adult female gave me a hug and 'may' have felt the butt of my Glock during the hug. But nobody has said anything to me as of yet.
If I am ever approached about it and they tell me that they don't want a firearm inside their residence, then out of respect I would lock it up immediatly or maybe just leave if necessary.
Needless to say, I'm trying to stop being a 'hugger'. :)
 
That "Friend" word gets used a little too loosely by most folks for my tastes. Anyone I call friend not only knows I'm packing but could tell you the make, model, caliber, what ammo I use and how many spare mags I pack.
 
If I am going into someone's home and I want to carry I always advise my cc status and ask if it is ok. If they say they don't care then continue to carry. If they have a problem with it I leave it locked up in the vehicle.I am thinking that SC code states that you have to have express permission to CC in another person's private residence.
 
All of my friends know I carry. Most want to get licensed themselves. Some have asked me to take them to the range so they can learn to shoot. The only place I don't carry is my in-laws. My mother-in-law doesn't like guns so out of respect, I lock it in the car which is always parked where I can keep an eye on it.
 
walt629 said:
Out of respect for your friends do you tell them you're carrying, if they don't already know?
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Absolutely not. I made the mistake of telling one "friend" and he proceeded to inform a bunch of people I go to church with, with out my permission to do so


walt629 said:
How many of us will actually violate the sanctity of a friends home by carrying without getting permission from them to do so in their home?
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I don't consider it a violation and I don't make a big deal about it. If it's a choice between asking and leaving it in the car, I leave it in the car.
 
I don't tell. If someone found out and asked me to put it away, I would, but if they don't know I'm not going to bring it up. When someone comes to my house, I don't ask them to walk through a metal detector - if an adult is carrying, that's their business, to share with me if they want but concealed means concealed. I don't expect the friends who I'm pretty sure are unarmed to be able to protect my family when we visit, so I take care of that myself (and would protect that unarmed friend if needed too).
 
SGB said:
That "Friend" word gets used a little too loosely by most folks for my tastes. Anyone I call friend not only knows I'm packing but could tell you the make, model, caliber, what ammo I use and how many spare mags I pack.
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I agree, everyone of my true friends can tell you this about me!
Now my personal policy is that concealed means concealed and as such I don't consider it a violation to be carrying and they don't know about it. Now some friends have a bunch of kids and such usually I'll disarm and go in, (I am fairly active and usually end running around with the kids especially if mines there as well.) so I'll usually disarm and go in.
 
I don't inform anyone. Most of my VERY close friends know I carry. If I go to someone's house and they find out and don't like it, I will lock it in my truck. Hopefully after that, if needed, I will be able to educate them and get them to join us all in the defense of ourselves and put the BG's on notice..."your time is limited, we will make it safer for all by starting with myself."
 
My close friends know. Other "friends" I know, don't. Until someone is in my and my wife's "inner circle" of close friends, I really don't share much of anything. They know where I live, what I drive and some political and religion factoids, but that is about it.
Our close or "inner circle" of friends know a ton about us. Including the weapons I carry. Of course, I know what they have as well. ;-)
 
Treo said:
You are aware that someone is going to take this post seriously right?
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It just seems to me that some people who preach "concealed is concealed", "the element of surprise is everything", "nobody knows but me" also seem to be fascinated with telling someone about their gun using any excuse they can find to do so.

When visiting a friend or relative do they tell them about their cell phone in case it should ring or vibrate unexpectedly? Why is the gun any different, especially if it is concealed?

Part of the problem, I think, that we have with the public having such a negative image of guns is that we as gun owners treat them as something so different from any other object we might be carrying. The gun is only a tool - that's all. The cell phone is only a tool - that's all. One is a tool for communication, the other is a tool for self defense. People use cell phones to commit crimes. People even use cell phones to detonate bombs. Why is the gun any different?

I handle my gun more carefully than other objects, certainly, because of the consequences of a negligent discharge, just like I handle a coffee cup with near boiling water more carefully that a plastic tumbler full of tap water.
 
Nope. Out of my mixed bag of friends, ranging from very liberal to very conservative, I'm the only one who carries. I don't keep it a secret, but there has never been an occasion to admit I'm carrying. I carry in a small travel bag, and people know better than to go searching around in a woman's purse, big no-no. If I'm staying somewhere for a while, like a party, and there are kids, I lock my bag in the car.
 
I'm old school where they say "What they don't know can't hurt them". If you're carring concealed I see no reason to inform anyone. As long as you're being safe and is in control why let everyone know that you you have a weapon??? Thats my HOP!!!!!
 
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