Burt xd 40
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My girlfriend is kind of a hippie chick and really could care less for guns. but I would like to get her a pistol for the house. Any idea on how to go about this?
any ideas on how to get my girlfriend interested in firearms
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lostinataxi
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Hippy chick eh? They can be lots of fun when ur young and full of testosterone, I can understand that. Well, having said that, I have a wife from Thailand who doesn't like guns either. Thailand is not a free country in that you cannot own guns there easily, you have to know the right people first. As a result, most citdizens are not into them. Most citizens there couldn't afford the cost even if they could own them easily. I bring my wife along to our rifle club meetings, dinners, shooting events and she's enjoying chit chatting with the other wives. As a result, she's being encouraged by them to give it a try. She likes to shoot my Ruger 10/22 for obvious reasons. it doesn't make a very loud bang and there's not much recoil. I've even managed to get her to try out my .357 and .45 acp handguns a couple of times. The high power rifles, well, I'm still working on those. I think in time she may give them a go too. Moral of my long winded story is to get with an active rifle club and bring her to functions where she can meet other wives/girlfriends who will most likely give her encouragement to not fear firearms so much. Teach her safety and things might fall into place. It's worth a try.
CarryNM
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I had a probllem convincing my wife to get CCL here in NM. I made a deal with her, to take the course, and if she still felt the same way, she did not have to send in the paper work. As we sit here, My permit came in the mail yesterday, and we are "patiently awaiting " her permit now. She is an excellent shot, and does enjoy sport shooting, so no problem with that. However after the CCL class, she is now more aware of her surroundings and the environment into which she goes. Give her some time at the range, and maybe with an instructor whom she does not know. She may feel pressured by you. Put a little effort into it, BUT save the Diamonds for something more important and lasting. LOL
Gr8danemom
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Sounds like its time for a date night at a gun range. Maybe do an introductory class together? Or arrange her to take a women focused class with some of her girlfriends?
hestes
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I hate to be a buzz-kill here, but if she is really not interested, you can't make her be. She may come around in time, but if you try to push the subject when she is not interested it will just make her more resistant. I would suggest you offer to take her shooting when you go, but realize she may not change her mind. If you get her a gun for the house that she isn't going to practice with or use if she needed to, it doesn't help much. If she tried to force you to be interested in something you're not, would that work for you? Probably not.
Bigcarlover
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Find a friend with a girlfriend that shoots. Get them together on some casual terms (the female, not your friend). Eventually suggest going to a range for a double date (with dinner or something she likes afterwords). Double up on ear protection, and get something without a lot of recoil (like a .22LR).
Or you could just have someone mug her. I'm kidding of course, don't do that.
Or you could just have someone mug her. I'm kidding of course, don't do that.
mlg10g
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I couldn't get my daughter to go for the longest time. She was pretty anti-gun and saw no reason to have one. I even tried an example of having to be able to defend yourself in case of a zombie attack (way before Walking Dead), and she said that zombies would be moving very slowly so they'd be easy to kill with, say, a shovel. I said, "Wow, you pick the ONE movie with slow zombies and use Shaun of the Dead as an example?" Her point was about the decomposing flesh, and I said what about the possessed ones, and it just went downhill from there. But I digress.
One day, she wanted to go to lunch and I told her that I was heading to the range with my boyfriend, and she decided that maybe she wanted to go. I let her try my Walther P22, and she went through a brick of ammo. She really enjoyed it and was really good with it. Now she has a snub nosed S&W 38 special.
I know ammo is ridiculously expensive and hard to find now, but if you invite your girlfriend along to hang out with you, and maybe talk to her about trying it (with fun splatter targets or some really annoying object like a broken cell phone to target), and have her try it with a low-recoil gun, she might decide to try it.
One day, she wanted to go to lunch and I told her that I was heading to the range with my boyfriend, and she decided that maybe she wanted to go. I let her try my Walther P22, and she went through a brick of ammo. She really enjoyed it and was really good with it. Now she has a snub nosed S&W 38 special.
I know ammo is ridiculously expensive and hard to find now, but if you invite your girlfriend along to hang out with you, and maybe talk to her about trying it (with fun splatter targets or some really annoying object like a broken cell phone to target), and have her try it with a low-recoil gun, she might decide to try it.
Nightmare45
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Take her shooting.
Courtney.cj.chen
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Can't force it- the only thing you can do- is a series of exposure activities- to see there is a gun lover inside of there or not. I am not sure what exactly a hippie is- I've always thought of them as peaceful and loving- refuse to use physical force- even if to defend themselves? But something i suggest doing is- somehow making her aware that no matter how loving and kind she is to others- that someday a complete stranger and especially she knows- could and will harm her- for no reason at all. And if she believes in karma- That karma works out most of the time- but can not account for 100%- and its in those "exceptions" that muggings, rapes, and other violent crimes occur- & its in those exceptions that she'll wish she had a weapon to defend herself with.
XD40scinNC
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Tell her you love her, care for her, and will defend her to the best of your ability, and that you are purchasing a hand gun.
Then tell her it is important for her to be able to handle and shoot a handgun. Make her comfortable with handling a gun, explaining all aspects of gun safety, and get some snapcaps so she can load, chamber, dry fire, clear the gun, etc. Then take her to a range and let her shoot. Maybe even just a visit without shooting on the first trip to the range. Good hearing protection, and make sure she dresses appropriately (cleavage is nice, but not on gun ranges).
And finally a bedside gunsafe might put her on the side of having a home defense weapon.
The greatest motive of the anti-gun crowd is ignorance, willful and deliberate ignorance about scary guns, and the enemy of ignorance is knowledge.
Then tell her it is important for her to be able to handle and shoot a handgun. Make her comfortable with handling a gun, explaining all aspects of gun safety, and get some snapcaps so she can load, chamber, dry fire, clear the gun, etc. Then take her to a range and let her shoot. Maybe even just a visit without shooting on the first trip to the range. Good hearing protection, and make sure she dresses appropriately (cleavage is nice, but not on gun ranges).
And finally a bedside gunsafe might put her on the side of having a home defense weapon.
The greatest motive of the anti-gun crowd is ignorance, willful and deliberate ignorance about scary guns, and the enemy of ignorance is knowledge.
We fear what we do not understand. I would suggest you find a female shooting instructor who will calmly teach her how to shoot a 22lr pistol in a private tactical bay or at a time when the range is fairly empty. After her comfort improves, let her pick out what she feels is a good fit for her. I know several women who warm up after using airsoft guns and figuring out they can actually hit a target. I do not recommend just purchasing a gun and saying "here, I bought this for you". I can't tell you how many women come to classes with guns that a loved one purchased for them. Most often, they are not good choices for their personal grip and are often not something they will shoot well. That not only is discouraging but some will shoot one round and decide to go home and never return.
GerardoNesmith
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Make her interested in the most popular action flicks that you watch all the time. This is just an idea. However woman with guns is never a good thought. They are very much lethal holding a gun in their hand.
wolf_fire
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Burt,
When I first met my wife about 20 years ago, she said "no guns, no motorcycles, and don't even think of being a cop".
Today, she owns her own gun, rides on the back of the bike on long trips, and I'm a member of our volunteer Sheriffs Reserve Uniformed Division.
How you ask? Patience, love and understanding. As foreign as it is for us that someone would not want to protect themselves, it's as foreign to them that we would want to "tote around a gun".
I left "Armed Citizen" pages open from the NRA magazines, I'd leave my EDC pistol on the end table between us when watching TV. She knew it was a part of my life and generally when anyone sees a firearm, they are naturally curious. She used to stare at the pistol every once in awhile and even at times asked a particular question about it. I would mute the TV, unload the weapon, show her it was unloaded and then answer her question (I would not go into any more detail unless I could see she was still curious). By following safe gun handling rules and being patient with her, eventualllllllllllllly I had the conversation that would be received well by her. The conversation went something like this... "Hon, it would just about crush me if something ever happened to you in the house when I was not there. Maybe you should consider at least learning how to shoot." From there it still took some time, but she eventually went to a "Girls and Guns" class sponsored by the NRA. I don't know about your relationship, but I don't think it would have worked out well if I was her first instructor. She is an excellent shot now, has her own pistol, and a license to carry.
I feel much better that she can protect herself when she has to. I know she wouldn't be where she is now with firearms if I pushed it.
Only you know your girlfriend. Hopefully, my experience may help you.
When I first met my wife about 20 years ago, she said "no guns, no motorcycles, and don't even think of being a cop".
Today, she owns her own gun, rides on the back of the bike on long trips, and I'm a member of our volunteer Sheriffs Reserve Uniformed Division.
How you ask? Patience, love and understanding. As foreign as it is for us that someone would not want to protect themselves, it's as foreign to them that we would want to "tote around a gun".
I left "Armed Citizen" pages open from the NRA magazines, I'd leave my EDC pistol on the end table between us when watching TV. She knew it was a part of my life and generally when anyone sees a firearm, they are naturally curious. She used to stare at the pistol every once in awhile and even at times asked a particular question about it. I would mute the TV, unload the weapon, show her it was unloaded and then answer her question (I would not go into any more detail unless I could see she was still curious). By following safe gun handling rules and being patient with her, eventualllllllllllllly I had the conversation that would be received well by her. The conversation went something like this... "Hon, it would just about crush me if something ever happened to you in the house when I was not there. Maybe you should consider at least learning how to shoot." From there it still took some time, but she eventually went to a "Girls and Guns" class sponsored by the NRA. I don't know about your relationship, but I don't think it would have worked out well if I was her first instructor. She is an excellent shot now, has her own pistol, and a license to carry.
I feel much better that she can protect herself when she has to. I know she wouldn't be where she is now with firearms if I pushed it.
Only you know your girlfriend. Hopefully, my experience may help you.
Gallstones
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I like firearms, but don't like sexism much.
