Am I too paranoid?

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Ambassador4JC

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Tonight i was going out to walk the dogs and before i did i wanted to put on some pants suitable for carrying a firearm. (Something other than just gym shorts). My wife proceeds to tell me that she will just go outside with me. I then tell her that the pistol is sitting on the coffe table and that i prefer she be inside with it because i thought it might be possible that someone may enter our home while im not standing by the door. She thinks thats ridiculous and that im being a little too "paranoid". I am not trying to talk badly about my wife at all as i loveher very much. But was I really being to paranoid? In myheart ithought i was just doing what i belived was the best way to protect my family. Thanks for your thoughts.
 
Paranoid? No. Overly careful? No. Asking for trouble? Only if your wife is not trained to use a handgun under stressful conditions so that it is less likely to end up being used against her (and you when you return) while you leave her there with it.

As for me, I have a gun with me very nearly all the time, especially every time I leave the house. Not only because of the idea of self defense while out, but in case of the unlikely event I surprise some unwanted company in the house upon my return.

...Maybe we are all paranoid! However, crap happens and we have no control over when it happens. Thankfully the odds of it happening to any one of us is astronomically low. The odds however are NOT zero so again my answer to your original question is "no". Your wife should consider herself lucky that is is better protected than many wives out there.
 
This is what I would do. I would say fine and then walk out of the house locking the door behind me. The next day I would go buy another handgun or shotgun that can stay loaded at the house all the time, unlike your carry gun. I would show her where it is and how to use it and hopefully, if the time came, she would choose to use it if needed. However, you can lead a horse to water, but you cant make it drink. We can at least give it the option though.
And by the way, you are not paranoid.
 
To be blunt, your wife has no clue. She lives with her head in the sand you provide her with.

You two should have a meeting of the minds. She should appreciate the fact that you have her security in mind but you should also have the piece of mind that is she is aware of possible dangers and is able to handle herself in these cases.

I've been told I sometimes have a lack of tact and diplomacy but this is a very important subject and it's hard to dance around the issues in this case.

KK
 
A person can get carried away with many things in life....or not. People have different comfort levels, especially in different settings. I agree that the purpose of having a firearm for protection is just for that, and having it at the "right time." One may have to take a "step back" if they find that they will no longer go to a post office or school, due to state and federal laws prohibiting firearms. Sometimes the more one is "low key" about these types of situations, the better they go. Just be careful that a heightened anxiety level does not cause you to act too impulsive in a negative way.
 
AmbassadorforJC- I do not believe you are being overtly paranoid. My wife of 22 years humors me when it comes to personal and home security. I have LEO and Security experience so she has grown used to me having weapons around the house. She feels that her faith in God is all she needs for our family to remain safe. I am very in tune with her faith as I share the same type of faith. I told her the other night that she was free to feel the way she does about concealed carry and the weapons we have at home. I told her that I will chose to be prepared for the worst case scenario. Chance favors the prepared mind and I have decided that we will not be victims.
 
Paranoia is an irrational fear of something. Taking precautions against home invasion was not irrational prior to the recent increase in that crime. No, taking precautions against crime either inside or outside your home is not irrational. Unfortunately, I suspect that your wife finds it upsetting to admit to herself that this threat is real. Many people prefer to imagine that bad things only happen to others. This may be complicated further if there is a paranoia of guns. Good luck.
 
I would be overly thrilled if my husband tell me to be careful while he is out. But then, he knows I am more careful than paranoid because I have my gun on me whether he is around or not. So NO! you are not paranoid. You just love your wife and the lifestyle you are accustomed to live in. Situational awareness no matter where you are and where you are going.
 
Am I misreading the OP? He told his wife to stay at home with the gun rather than go outside with him to walk the dog?
 
Et Al,
Keykutter,
YOU are an INSTRUCTOR? Please let me know where NOT to send a new handgun owner for training with you.

NavyLCDR,
Your question is valid from the aware point of view. He did indeed leave his wife with his carry firearm and went out without one apparently. It does appear both he and his wife need a major refresher in why CCW permits are issued and they both need to take the class together, HIM AGAIN.

Living away from the urban centres has not lessened my awareness but continued it, as the majority of the danger has shifted from human to fur bearing with a very hostile attitude on occassion.

"A little paranoia is good for you, they are out to get you."

Take care and be safe
pfb
 
Keykutter,
Blunt? I prefer Einstien's comment concerning genius and stupidity. Your comment does not exhibit any professionalism as an instructor.

NavyLCDR,
He also missed his own point. Spouse should be more firearms aware and he should also have been more aware. Both should take a class with a knowledgable and professional instructor. My ex wife being British notwithstanding became an excellent shot after a few sessions with an instructor who understood the difference between holding a class and proper instruction.

Take care and be safe
pfb
 
My wife and i live in an upstairs apartment where you have to walk in the door and then go up the stairs. So while downstairs we are still in my apartment. She did notwant to wait for me to put on some proper pants suitable for ccing a firearm. She was just going to go outside by herself in our apartment complex so i decided i woul rather just takr the dogs out without my firearm and make herstay inside with the firearm as i had left it upstairs tryingtobeat her to the door. This is not common practice for me as i almost always carry my CCW. I just happened to have just gotten out of the shower and was getting ready for bead soon so all i had on were gym shorts.

My wife and i have since resolved the issue as i have calmly explained to her my motives and that itwas my responsibility as the man in the household to keep the family safe. Next time ill just take out the dogs a final time before i start gettingready for bed.

Thanks fr all the input.
 
Mercdragon. I really appreciate your trying to help and provide information for my help. However my wife and i are both very familiar with our firearms and know how to use them well. I would never leave her with it alone if it were not the case. Thanks again.
 
Ambassador4JC said:
My wife and i live in an upstairs apartment where you have to walk in the door and then go up the stairs. So while downstairs we are still in my apartment. She did notwant to wait for me to put on some proper pants suitable for ccing a firearm. She was just going to go outside by herself in our apartment complex so i decided i woul rather just takr the dogs out without my firearm and make herstay inside with the firearm as i had left it upstairs tryingtobeat her to the door. This is not common practice for me as i almost always carry my CCW. I just happened to have just gotten out of the shower and was getting ready for bead soon so all i had on were gym shorts.

My wife and i have since resolved the issue as i have calmly explained to her my motives and that itwas my responsibility as the man in the household to keep the family safe. Next time ill just take out the dogs a final time before i start gettingready for bed.

Thanks fr all the input.
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Ok that makes sense. Bottom line, I don't walk out my door w/out a gun. In a situation similar to your's I would have thrown on a hoodie and put my gun in the pocket.
 
My gun is a part of my dress, never without it, unless undressed, and then more than one always in reach. Even though I live in a relatively safe city and in a safer than average area of the city, I'm still never without a gun. Anything can happen, anywhere, anytime. I've never had to use it and hope I never do, but I'll always have it and will practice regularly. I'll always have another one in the car for the same reason.
 
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