Glock 23 (Compact) or Glock 27 (subcompact). Both are extremely well balanced. My wife has no problem with the recoil of her G27 (.40).
Guess I'm into ugly (even though I think they are perfection) cause I second the Glock 23 or 27, both in .40 but I have also considered the G30sf and G36 which are .45
And find myself more frequently with my G29 - 10mm